You Have All You Need
I speak about employee engagement and change management a lot and I always start with the same assertion. You already have everything you need. Here’s why.
My career started off in social service provision. Often with clients who did not want to be there and who did not want to listen to me. The research showed that choice was a key factor is successful change and my approach – or my employers’ approach – needed to change if we were going to make a difference in people’s lives. On a personal level this meant I had to think and act differently. My job was not to be right but to ask questions to help my clients explore the possibilities and options that they had. To articulate the future they wanted for themselves and their families and start to work out the steps they needed to take to get there. And here’s the thing. If my disadvantaged families and traumatised clients could find the strength and commitment to change and understand that they have the choice to do that every day - so can you.
Because the only person you can actually change is yourself.
Its that simple. All the effort you put into trying to change others, to get them to do what you want them to do, is pretty futile. If you want something to change you have to be willing to look at yourself and see what you might be able to do differently. Because that is the place where you have all the power and control. In you. Its already there.
When I have been in a role where I did everything I could to make a difference and I could do no more I chose to stop banging my head against a brick wall and walked away. My power was in that choice. To try and then to choose to walk away.
This power doesn’t come from the outside, from books or from an MBA. In my experience to step into that place of self-assurance and control you need to work on self-mastery and reflection. You need to get to know you better. How you do that will be different for everyone. Some journal, some cultivate reflective practice writing and others are part of action-learning groups.
If you want to take this next step in your development as a leader in 2019 I encourage you to make space for self-reflection and watch how your world changes with you.
I create and hold space for individuals and groups to grow. For coaching and team development opportunities contact me now before my 2019 calendar fills up.